So here we are..again after a long gap, very typical of me huh?
its ok, I dont think I have any serious fans who devotedly keep checking my blog :)
since I am the only one who keeps reading my blogs again and again, theres no harm in paying some rare visits...

ok so here go my thoughts..of late I have been thinking hard, what actually makes us happy? Is it money...to some extent but not totally, Is it good health? no, not really, Is it good friends and a happy family, this might be a really good candidate..
i recently heard of a survey where they measured one's happiness and turns out that people are most happy when their relative incomes or earnings are equal to or higher than their peers or friends. It doesnt matter how much they actually make, its how much more I make than my neighbor or the nerd next cubicle...humans have definitely got the most amazing psyche...its always comparison...its not enough if you say to a lady that "You are beautiful", they feel more happy when you say, "You are more beautiful than anyone else on this earth, you are the most beautiful woman in the world"

Its the comparatives and the superlatives that make up our world, its not the positives. Its not enough if you are "good", you should be "better" than most of the people in your group or the best thing would be, you should be the "best".

All my childhood, it was always " Who would get the first rank in the class?", it didnt matter even if you didnt score that well in the exam, as long as you scored the highest. Sometimes it did hurt a bit if the highest mark was not even 80%, but then there was always this smug feeling that no one else could do it better, so you might as well rejoice...

so now, after some hundreds of exams, assignments, projects, grades and score sheets, I question myself..."What exactly did I achieve in my life and seriously Am I happy with it? Is this what I want? Am I happy with my achievements in life?"

Do we actually need to live in complete seclusion like the munis and saints in the olden days in order to achieve an actual sense of fulfillment? Do we need to isolate ourselves to actually find the real threshold of success or fulfillment? Do we need to run far away from people in order to avoid comparing ourselves with them?

To be frank, I dont have the answers. But I have started to realize that real happiness doesnt lie in comparing the salary figures with that of your friends or in counting in how many more assets you have got than your peers...Real happiness lies far from these...

Nothing can match the sense of satisfaction when you look at the rising sun and nothing can match the joy when you see your loved one smile...
So I think I have asked more questions than the number of answers I provide. But then everyone has to find his/her own answer..its not the same thing for everyone.